Common Mistakes Made by Men on Matchmaking Sites and Tips How to Avoid Them

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Present the Best of You

A friend tells you he had the time of his life on a date with a woman he recently met, another confides that he fears a woman with whom he had a brief fling was driving by at night to see if he was with anyone else. A third states that he met a woman, and she was less than truthful regarding her age older by over a decade. A contemporary brags that he beds a different woman every night, and another ponders why he can’t get anyone to speak with him let alone go out on a date. These men have very different issues with their dating lives but one thing in common, they all use dating apps to meet women. While one seems to use this technology to have sex with as many women as he can other’s use it to find their soul mate. These are two ends of the spectrum but are mistakes men make that lead to problems in and out of the dating realm. The efficient and effective use of any technology is preferable so, here are a few things you should take into consideration when using these apps.

Present the Best of You

Profile and Photos: Different apps have varying structures to how your information is presented to the women. For instance, some apps will display your information prominently along with your photos, therefore, a woman may take your guitar playing or dog ownership into consideration besides your aesthetics. Let’s face reality, most of these sites do not do this so, for instance, if you are not photogenic, you may get a ‘left swipe’ and that sucks! I know plenty of great looking guys that don’t photograph well thus, do not get great results from this relatively new way of meeting a woman. Even if you are not the most photogenic individual, there are things you can do to optimize your photo lineup. You have about a second to make that first impression. Your main profile picture needs to be your best. There are many men vying for that beautiful woman’s attention so, consider hiring a professional photographer that specializes in natural candids . Trust me, you have an angle and a setting that will mitigate any flaw. Your photographer can perform post-production most likely using filters so you get the best results. You are probably asking, what happens when we meet? That is when all your other great qualities she didn’t have time to peruse on your profile will then be factors.

Keep it Consistent and Truthful: We all want a woman to know all the cool stuff we’re into and definitely, you should peacock, meaning display the best aspects of yourself. If you state in your profile you enjoy rock climbing, be sure to include a photo or two of you climbing those big rocks. You do not want to populate your photo lineup with photos in a general environment Make sure and display photos of varying locals and interests so this perspective recipient of your affection will find commonality or know for a fact you are not another online exaggerator. You do not want to get a few dates in and she asks you to go rock climbing and you are at a loss. In the dating realm, those fibs come back to you as a female remembers everything. You may think something is innocuous but I can assure you, she has total recall. Play it safe but exhibit your best. This is a good rule of thumb

Don’t Emanate a Creepy Vibe: If a Female’s profile doesn’t state that she wants sex, your best bet would be to not approach the subject until brought up organically. Don’t send creepy photos. Everybody thinks their penis is the one penis that every woman wants to see but unless it is something out of a book of magic that can stimulate every erogenous zone simultaneously, they don’t! Unless a woman asks for a photo of your junk, don’t proactively send one. It’s not only the lude photos of which you should refrain. Unless you want your next night out to be with a woman in a trailer park, do not include shirtless photos in your profile unless it is organic to your surroundings, such as a beach. Don’t message a person of serious interest at an inappropriate time. They could assume this is a booty call. Although the dating app is a relatively new frontier, it is no reason to treat it as anything more than a tool for scale and integrate it into your analog efforts.

Don’t look like an illiterate: My pet peeve is when people brutalize the English Language! I understand that you couldn’t care less what I think as you are not trying to date me but take this into consideration. You want a woman of high standards and accomplishment as you are one yourself. If you articulate your written self in an educated, thoughtful, and grammar mistake-free manner, you will receive a higher quality selection of women. The adage stands; you get what you give

Take the Rejection and Move Along: It liberating to a woman. These women do not owe you a response and If after two tries over a week’s time you don’t get a response, let it go. Although you may feel it is a perfect fit, she may feel differently. Plus, you have no clue what is transpiring in her world and if the issue that is keeping her offline rectifies, a stalker is not what she will want to return upon her online return.

Dating is the most subjective, stressful, confusing and wonderful endeavor on this planet. Getting familiar with a new person is an adventure that could lead to the epitome of happiness and fulfillment. It can also end in emotional torment and liability. I hope bringing this list of common faux pas to your attention will assist in getting you the love of your life. Although, you can skip the dating app altogether and find an international matchmaking service that handles all the detail work for you.

A friend tells you he had the time of his life on a date with a woman he recently met, another confides that he fears a woman with whom he had a brief fling was driving by at night to see if he was with anyone else. A third states that he met a woman, and she was less than truthful regarding her age older by over a decade. A contemporary brags that he beds a different woman every night, and another ponders why he can’t get anyone to speak with him let alone go out on a date. These men have very different issues with their dating lives but one thing in common, they all use dating apps to meet women. While one seems to use this technology to have sex with as many women as he can other’s use it to find their soul mate. These are two ends of the spectrum but are mistakes men make that lead to problems in and out of the dating realm. The efficient and effective use of any technology is preferable so, here are a few things you should take into consideration when using these apps.

Present the Best of You

Profile and Photos: Different apps have varying structures to how your information is presented to the women. For instance, some apps will display your information prominently along with your photos, therefore, a woman may take your guitar playing or dog ownership into consideration besides your aesthetics. Let’s face reality, most of these sites do not do this so, for instance, if you are not photogenic, you may get a ‘left swipe’ and that sucks! I know plenty of great looking guys that don’t photograph well thus, do not get great results from this relatively new way of meeting a woman. Even if you are not the most photogenic individual, there are things you can do to optimize your photo lineup. You have about a second to make that first impression. Your main profile picture needs to be your best. There are many men vying for that beautiful woman’s attention so, consider hiring a professional photographer that specializes in natural candids . Trust me, you have an angle and a setting that will mitigate any flaw. Your photographer can perform post-production most likely using filters so you get the best results. You are probably asking, what happens when we meet? That is when all your other great qualities she didn’t have time to peruse on your profile will then be factors.

Keep it Consistent and Truthful: We all want a woman to know all the cool stuff we’re into and definitely, you should peacock, meaning display the best aspects of yourself. If you state in your profile you enjoy rock climbing, be sure to include a photo or two of you climbing those big rocks. You do not want to populate your photo lineup with photos in a general environment Make sure and display photos of varying locals and interests so this perspective recipient of your affection will find commonality or know for a fact you are not another online exaggerator. You do not want to get a few dates in and she asks you to go rock climbing and you are at a loss. In the dating realm, those fibs come back to you as a female remembers everything. You may think something is innocuous but I can assure you, she has total recall. Play it safe but exhibit your best. This is a good rule of thumb

Don’t Emanate a Creepy Vibe: If a Female’s profile doesn’t state that she wants sex, your best bet would be to not approach the subject until brought up organically. Don’t send creepy photos. Everybody thinks their penis is the one penis that every woman wants to see but unless it is something out of a book of magic that can stimulate every erogenous zone simultaneously, they don’t! Unless a woman asks for a photo of your junk, don’t proactively send one. It’s not only the lude photos of which you should refrain. Unless you want your next night out to be with a woman in a trailer park, do not include shirtless photos in your profile unless it is organic to your surroundings, such as a beach. Don’t message a person of serious interest at an inappropriate time. They could assume this is a booty call. Although the dating app is a relatively new frontier, it is no reason to treat it as anything more than a tool for scale and integrate it into your analog efforts.

Don’t look like an illiterate: My pet peeve is when people brutalize the English Language! I understand that you couldn’t care less what I think as you are not trying to date me but take this into consideration. You want a woman of high standards and accomplishment as you are one yourself. If you articulate your written self in an educated, thoughtful, and grammar mistake-free manner, you will receive a higher quality selection of women. The adage stands; you get what you give

Take the Rejection and Move Along: It liberating to a woman. These women do not owe you a response and If after two tries over a week’s time you don’t get a response, let it go. Although you may feel it is a perfect fit, she may feel differently. Plus, you have no clue what is transpiring in her world and if the issue that is keeping her offline rectifies, a stalker is not what she will want to return upon her online return.

Dating is the most subjective, stressful, confusing and wonderful endeavor on this planet. Getting familiar with a new person is an adventure that could lead to the epitome of happiness and fulfillment. It can also end in emotional torment and liability. I hope bringing this list of common faux pas to your attention will assist in getting you the love of your life. Although, you can skip the dating app altogether and find an international matchmaking service that handles all the detail work for you.

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